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When Christmas comes along, everyone expects it to be joyous. Seeing loved ones, receiving (giving) gifts and enjoying some well earned time-off. However, for some, it’s not always so simple. Christmas can be an overwhelming experience, where expectations are too intense and being kind to yourself is left behind.
If Christmas can get too much for you sometimes, consider these tips to help yourself this year:
Planning & Boundaries
Write down what is really important to you these holidays
Question if something really “needs” to happen (what will happen if it doesn’t?)
Remember, the Christmas routine is not your normal routine (it’s over soon)
Make time for some things you would like to do (leave yourself space too)
Take one thing at a time
Remember you can say no
If there is conflict, disappointment or a difficult experience, try reframing the experience
Go to a calm environment, take some seconds or minutes to consider what just happened
Remember to breathe slowly & deeply
Listen to your thoughts and ask yourself:
Are they reflective of my true feelings?
Are they related to what is really important to me?
Consider the facts of the situation:
What actually happened?
Write down the facts (e.g. I came into the living room)
Reflect on how your thoughts or beliefs may have led to your current situation and if it’s possible to change anything in your circumstances
Use your journal to:
Note personal feelings down
Make a plan going forward
Write down your reframed view of the situation
Remember to act upon your planning, boundaries & reframing
Remember to be kind to yourself this holiday season
Remember that you are loved
Get a dose of mindfulness
Take ten minutes for yourself this holiday season with a mindfulness meditation. Listen now
Understand your thoughts, respond rather than react and try out a guided meditation
Learn to handle conflicts masterfully
Take 5 minutes a day to de-stress and make sense of your thoughts
A couple of minutes at the start of your day and a couple at the end can offer valuable insights into your state of mind and allow you to effectively plan and reflect on your day.
The following questions help guide you through this process.
Get your journal and have a go!
Fill these out at the start of your day:
I am grateful for
What’s a small goal that would make today great?
Fill this out at the end of your day:
Something amazing that happened (highlights of the day)
What did I learn today?
For any time of your day:
Free space for your thoughts:
How to reflect on 2022 & plan for 2023
Reflect & plan through learnings, values and successes
How to reflect on 2022 & plan for 2023
It’s been a year like no other (well, maybe like the year before, a little).
Reflecting on the year offers the chance to:
Rejoice in your success
Consider the learnings
Design and plan your next year
Align your goals (not just new year resolutions!)
In order to reflect on your last year, ask yourself these simple questions (feel free to write this down):
What went well?
(Don’t bypass the successes! Recognise the achievements and celebrate yourself)
What surprised you?
(Life is full of surprises, you’ve definitely experienced some, consider them and then how you responded)
What did this year teach you?
(Every year new experiences come our way, and we learn something every time)
For the year ahead:
What do you expect to happen in the next year?
(Big or small aspects all count here, professionally and personally)
How can you navigate uncertainty?
(Uncertainty will come our way, but knowing how you adapted to this last year and what helps, you can plan ahead for this year)
What are your top goals this year?
(Not resolutions, but concrete, individualised and time-bound goals)
If these questions haven’t already highlighted what’s important to you, also consider what your values are. Aligning your goals and actions with your values will bring a sense of deep satisfaction going forward.
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